I promised to offer my take on why we attract “bad” things or circumstances in my next to last post.
I gave three examples, but for the sake of brevity, I’ll just look at one. If you want me to offer my take on the others, let me know.
Let’s go with the tailgating car. Did you attract that to you? Well, if you’re driving well below the speed limit, yeah. Nothing too spiritual about that.
But what if you’re driving at a normal speed? It seems there are plenty of drivers these days who won’t be satisfied with that.
I was always afraid of tailgaters. I would panic when they were behind me. And it seemed they were always there. Big trucks on Route 128! Yikes! Very often my son was in his infant chair or his booster seat, in the back seat of the car. That’s when my fear was the worst.
And that’s probably when I got the most tailgaters.
I have to be honest, it could be that I was driving more slowly than other drivers and that’s why. Or it could have been that energy of fear (which I will probably feel again when I have grandchildren in their booster seats in the back of my car).
Either way, I can take some responsibility for attracting so many tailgaters.
As I pointed out in my other post, that doesn’t mean I’m to blame. When those grandchildren-to-be are in my car, and I’m feeling that fear, I will feel no guilt. Or maybe I’ll overcome the fear, I don’t know.
But the good news is, when I take responsibility for what I’m attracting I can no longer consider myself a victim.
Now, I get fewer tailgaters, and when I do, I very gradually slow down to a speed at which I feel more in control and less vulnerable. (It’s difficult to switch lanes when a tailgater is blocking your view of the traffic in the other lanes.) That usually gets the tailgaters out of my way, as they finally switch to the fast lane.
Every so-called problem you have is an opportunity to notice how you react, inwardly and outwardly. So when a car is tailgating you, or a cashier is rude to you, try noticing how you feel, physically and emotionally. Notice how you react outwardly. See what you can learn about yourself.
If you have any experiences in which a “problem” has turned into a growth opportunity, please leave a comment and share!