If you’ve wondered how to overcome shyness, please know that you’re fine just as you are. But shyness could be holding you back in one or more ways.
You don’t have to overcome shyness. That’s a tall order! You may feel it’s part of who you are. What’s more, many people find shyness an appealing trait.
It’s not “bad” to be shy, but it’s no fun when shyness or social phobia keeps you from having what you want in life.
What if, instead of trying to overcome shyness, you thought about how it holds you back?
What do you want that’s difficult to get because you’re shy? You may even want to get a piece of paper or start a Word file and write it down.
When you have one or more items on your list, rank how important each one is on a scale of one to ten.
Now you have something more specific and manageable to work on. And you don’t have to dishonor yourself by trying to change a personality trait.
And if you had nothing on the list, that’s fine too. As I said, there’s nothing wrong with being shy. It’s only a problem if it keeps you from living the life you want to live.
If you had trouble figuring out what was important to you, I can help.
My name is Janet Beatrice and I’m a Certified Professional Coach, as well as a shy person with a gentle approach. If you had trouble figuring out what was important to you in that exercise, I can help you get clarity on that.
Sometimes we have trouble hearing our own inner voices. Why? Because sometimes the answers scare us. Sometimes knowing what we wants means admitting that we’ll need to do something that scares us.
I can help you feel safe in expressing your thoughts, feelings, and ideas. It’s okay to know what you want and not be ready to pursue it. We shy people usually need a gentle approach, and that’s exactly what I provide you with. You’ll move forward at your own pace, and when you’re ready, you’ll take baby steps towards your goals.
If you know what you want to change, I can help with that too.
If you know exactly what you want to change, I can help you figure out what’s blocking you from changing it. Together we can come up with an action plan, with “mini-goals” along that way that move you towards your larger goal. I’ll hold you accountable. That doesn’t mean I yell at you or push you when you don’t meet your goals. It does mean I pay attention to whether or not you’re getting them done. And if you aren’t, we’ll explore what’s getting in the way. Once you understand what’s blocking you, if you’re truly motivated, you can usually overcome that block. Or you might find you’re not truly motivated, and that’s okay too. Then we’ll work to see what you really want in your heart.
Why a Certified Professional Coach is more empowering than most uncertified coaches
Coaching is not regulated. Anyone can call himself or herself a life coach. And some who do are very good at it. But coaching, as defined by the International Coach Federation, follows certain guidelines that most people don’t even know about.
First, a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) understands that you are the expert on your own life. We always let the client set the agenda. And we won’t tell you what to do.
That surprises people. Many think the whole point of a life coach is to have someone telling you what you need to do differently and giving advice. We can share resources with you and tell you what’s worked for other clients. But we understand better than most that the answers really need to come from within you.
That’s why our first job is not to advise but rather to listen and to listen deeply. We’ll ask you questions that help you find answers within yourself that you didn’t even know were there. One of my favorite moments as a coach is when a client says “I didn’t even know I thought that until I heard myself say it out loud.” That happens fairly often.
I won’t let you hire me until we’ve had a complimentary session
It’s difficult to know whether or not a coach is right for you without first having a conversation. I’d love to offer you a 45- to 120-minute complimentary coaching session (you choose the length). In that session, we’ll talk a little more about what coaching is, answer any questions you have, and do coaching session to explore your goals. You’ll leave the call with one small action item. And I will hold you accountable! I’ll follow up in about a week to see how you did with it.
Because I’ve had a spam problem, I’m not going to link to my email address here, sorry. You can reach me at janet @ heartbeat-coaching dot com or at 978-897-5444.
I’d love to hear from you!
Certified Professional Coach