If you’ve wondered how to overcome shyness or social phobia, please know that you’re fine just as you are. But shyness could be holding you back in one or more ways.
You don’t have to overcome shyness. That’s a tall order! You may feel it’s part of who you are. What’s more, many people find shyness an appealing trait.
It’s not “bad” to be shy, but it’s no fun when shyness or social phobia keeps you from having what you want in life.
What if, instead of trying to overcome shyness, you thought about how it holds you back? What do you want that’s difficult to get because you’re shy? You may even want to get a piece of paper or start a Word file and write it down.
When you have one or more items on your list, rank how important each one is on a scale of one to ten.
Now you have something more specific and manageable to work on. And you don’t have to dishonor yourself by trying to change a personality trait.
I can help you achieve your goals
My name is Janet Beatrice and I’m a Certified Professional Coach, as well as a shy person with a gentle approach. If you had trouble figuring out what was important to you in that exercise, I can help you get clarity on what’s important to you.
If you know exactly what you want to change, I can help you figure out what’s blocking you from changing it. Together we can come up with an action plan, where you’ll take baby steps each week towards your goal. I’ll hold you accountable. That doesn’t mean I yell at you or push you when you don’t meet your goals. It does mean I pay attention to whether or not you’re getting them done. And if you aren’t, we explore what’s getting in the way. Once you understand what’s blocking you, if you’re truly motivated, you can usually overcome that block. Or you might find you’re not truly motivated, and that’s okay too. Then we’ll work to see what you really want in your heart.
Why a Certified Professional Coach is more empowering than most uncertified coaches
Coaching is not regulated. Anyone can call himself or herself a life coach. And some who do are very good at it. But coaching, as defined by the International Coach Federation, follows certain rules that most people don’t even know about.
First, a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) understands that you are the expert on your own life. We always let the client set the agenda. And we won’t tell you what to do.
That surprises people. Many think the whole point of a life coach is to have someone telling you what you need to do differently and giving advice. We can share resources with you and tell you what’s worked for other clients. But we understand better than most that the answers really need to come from within you.
That’s why our first job is not to advise but rather to listen and to listen deeply. We’ll ask you questions that help you find answers within yourself that you didn’t even know were there. One of my favorite moments as a coach is when a client says “I didn’t even know I thought that until I heard myself say it out loud.” That happens fairly often when I’m coaching.
I won’t let you hire me until we’ve had a complimentary session
It’s difficult to know whether or not a coach is right for you without first having a conversation. I’d love to offer you a 30-minute complimentary session (it could go over, so please schedule in at least 45 minutes or let me know you must keep strictly to 30 minutes). In that session, we’ll talk a little more about what coaching is, answer any questions you have, and do a short coaching demo. You’ll leave the call with one small action item. And I will hold you accountable! I’ll follow up in about a week to see how you did with it.
Because I’ve had a spam problem, I’m not going to link to my email address here, sorry. You can reach me at janet @ heartbeat-coaching dot com or at 978-897-5444978-897-5444. I really wish we were not forced to have difficult to read, light blue Skype hyperlinks. If that’s hard to read, try this: 978 area code, and then 897-5444.
I’d love to hear from you!
Certified Professional Coach